December 8, 2013

ready

Wow.  I can't believe I didn't blog for a month.  Slacker!  It's because there is so much I want to say, but I can't say much of it.  The truth is that the last three months have been hard in ways that I didn't anticipate.

And it hurts.  And part of me wants to go live in the states, where I can drive myself to the grocery store, buy some fresh fruit, converse with the cashier, and return to my personal space without anyone professing their love to me or asking for money.  

But maybe the hard things are the best things.  I'll look back on all of this and know things I would have never known without this experience.  

At the same time, things are getting awesome in my life!  I'm finally making friends, and in 35 hours I will be moving into an orphanage full of lovely girls.  I'm so thrilled that I will be getting to know them better and spending lots of time with them.  My best friends are coming to visit me, see my life, and spend some time with my girls.  Then I'll be back in the states for a fabulous wedding and, equally importantly, some rest and processing time for me.  I'm so ready for it.  And I know that after that, I will be ready for what 2014 has to offer.

Is it a full year of being with the girls and maybe teaching a class at the University at the same time?  Is it half a year and then returning to America due to a lack of funds?  Is it moving to Zimbabwe and becoming a midwife?  Is right now a time to plan or a time to just be?  Should I be thinking about these options or just resting in the fact that I have at least a few months of time here, more if I dip into my little bit of savings?  

That is something I do not know.  But I'm ready to go for it, and to figure it out over time.  I'm ready to be joyful in this moment because this moment is the only one I really have, isn't it?  

I want to stay, but I'm sure God will be with me wherever I go.  That's why I named my blog and my facebook page "Shelby Loves Everywhere."  I love Haiti, and I want to stay.  But it's not my home.  No, neither is America.  Nor Zimbabwe.

"I've finally found where I belong.  
I've finally found where I belong, in Your presence.
I've finally found where I belong.
It's to be with You, to be with You."

~Where I Belong, Cory Asbury

November 12, 2013

a truckload of excitement and a dash of reality

Craziness!  I didn't want to bring this up on the blog until it was official, but it is now, so here it comes!

*drum roll*


I am MOVING!!  Packing up my bags and moving right down the street, to the orphanage that I have been visiting about once a week since I've been here.  Every day since I've been in this country, I prayed that God would give me an opportunity to spend more time with orphans and do what I was born to do - mentor forgotten children in the world.  Then, much to my surprise, the opportunity fell in my lap a LOT sooner than expected.  It's so incredible, and I can't wait to have a closer view of God's work in the lives of these precious children.  I'm even more honored for the chance to be a part of it!  

I look back on my childhood, and there a few, distinct adults who loved me and invested in me during my journey.  And they shaped me, and I would be a drastically different person without them, if I were even alive at all.  God has called me to play that role in the lives of children that I'm around, and I have been beautifully blessed in that role.  

Does it have to be Haiti?  No.  Wherever I live, for the rest of my life, I will do my best to love God, love people, and invest in children.  Nothing can ever, ever stop me.  But I love Haiti, and I want to be here.  I will fight for my place here.  

Then the reality sets in. 

Some missionaries spend 2 years fundraising before they leave for the field.  I, being the naive 21 year old that I am, basically came to Haiti straight from college.  And though I had some money from donations to begin with, start-up costs were more than I expected:  paying for the house up front, buying a bed, etc.  And the truth is that, when January rolls around, I will be dipping into my savings.  Being a recent college grad, I don't really have enough to last me very long here!

Living in Haiti is relatively cheap.  About $600 a month.  But I don't have it.  I have $50 coming in each month - from two beautiful souls.  But the cold, hard truth is that if a few more lovely people don't step up - I will be returning to the states and searching for a couch to crash on as early as March.  

So am I begging you to do something about it?  No.  In fact, I would have stopped asking for money a long time ago if it was for myself.  But it's God's money, needed for God's purposes.  It's up to you, only you, if you want to be a part of the work that God is doing in Haiti.  I earnestly hope that you do want to join me in this way, but I know that God will still love me and use me for His glory, even if I find myself sleeping on a couch in America.  Everywhere is an adventure, and God's will can be done anywhere in the world.

Ways to Help


1.  Make a monthly donation!  Make this ministry a part of your tithe!  No amount is too small.  Give $1 a month.  Seriously.  No one person can do everything, but together we can do amazing things for God, right?  [To do this: use the paypal button in the right sidebar of this blog.  Enter ANY amount and check the box for monthly!]

2.  Talk Haiti up to your friends and family.  Okay, so maybe your bank account literally can't spare $5 a month.  Great!  Fine!  You can still be a part of this, really!  Chances are you know someone who would want in on this Haiti Ministry action!  Talk to them about it!  Seriously.  You have nothing to lose.  

3.  Re-post my blog or my YOUCARING page.  This is the virtual version of talking Haiti up to your friends.  =]

4.  Make a special donation on my Youcaring page.  Maybe you don't have a steady income, but you have a few dollars under the couch that you'd be willing to send in!  Go for it!  Still extremely appreciated!  When the meter on the page is full, I'll be set for 2014!  [YouCaring widget is on the right of blog!]


October 31, 2013

I am Peter

"Oceans (Where Feet May Fail)"

You call me out upon the waters
The great unknown where feet may fail
And there I find You in the mystery
In oceans deep
My faith will stand

And I will call upon Your name
And keep my eyes above the waves
When oceans rise
My soul will rest in Your embrace
For I am Yours and You are mine

Your grace abounds in deepest waters
Your sovereign hand
Will be my guide
Where feet may fail and fear surrounds me
You've never failed and You won't start now

Spirit lead me where my trust is without borders
Let me walk upon the waters
Wherever You would call me
Take me deeper than my feet could ever wander
And my faith will be made stronger
In the presence of my Savior


This song.  Oh, this song.  The first time I heard it I thought it was pretty good.  Yet, the more times I sang it, the more times it became the prayer of my heart.  After all, who doesn't want to walk on the water?  To go on a grand adventure with God and experience the unexpected, wondrous beauty?  I think most of us do.  Just like Peter, we see Jesus out there, standing on the waves as if they're nothing.  And they are nothing to Him; He has overcome them already.  We see it, and it's glamorous.  It's cool.  It's exciting.  And we ask God to take us there.  At least, I asked God to take me there.

And what is it like?  Well, it's exactly what the song says.  I am in deep.  Deeper than my feet could ever wander.  My feet my fail; in fact, they have at times.  When I've tried to do any of this on my own, I've felt myself start to sink beneath the waves.  And all the while, I've been hoping I can keep my eyes above the waves.  Yet, I find myself looking down, wondering why I was crazy enough to get off of the nice, cozy, happy boat.  When you're falling into the waves, the boat looks pretty okay.

This place is deep.  I never would have gotten here without Jesus, just like Peter never would have walked on the water without Jesus.  But it's not a one time decision, or even a weekly affirmation.  When you stop trusting God, when you start to be afraid, you will start to sink.

And the beautiful part, one of the beautiful parts, is that even though Peter got scared and doubted his position walking on the water, Jesus still caught him.  He didn't let him fall and tell him it was his own darn fault.

My feet will continue to fail, but I hope and pray that I will keep my eyes above the waves.  

And if you, you beautiful person you, are still sitting in the boat - with the comfy cushions and hot chocolate - I want you to know that there's so much more to see.  If you step out of the boat, out of your comfort zone, and let the borders of your trust fall down, you will get wet.  And muddy.  And hurt.  And ridiculed.  And sometimes humiliated.  But somehow, the life you will live will be so much greater, and you will never have to wonder....


What if I went for it?  What if I gave it all?

What if I went to the place that I cannot survive on my own?

October 20, 2013

I'm not a teacher

"I'm not a teacher."

How many times in my life have I said that?  A bajillion.  I'm not a teacher.  I didn't major in education.  I never wanted to have a career in teaching.  I even took one education class to make sure, and I hated it.  Yet, here and there and everywhere, people seem think that I am.

In a lot of ways, I've been teaching forever.  I always helped my peers in class, and I eventually was a peer tutor after school.  Then I went to Honduras, and I taught first grade.  Now I'm in Haiti, teaching a first grader and 20 University students.  I spend at least 30 hours a week teaching.

"But maybe... the truth is that I love it."

I love it.  I love people.  I love watching people learn.  My real passion is teaching people about Jesus, but (right now, at least) that mostly just happens through hoping my life can be an example to someone.
But I also love watching a child go from hardly being able to read a single word to being able to read long sentences and understand different sounds.
I love watching college students study hard in hopes of changing their communities.
I love it when students come out of their shells.
I love the bond that is formed between the teacher and the students.
I love that I can laugh with my students.
I love that they asked me to preach to them.
I love that one of my students taught me how to drive a moto and subsequently promised me that I can call him whenever I need anything ever.
I love watching my students get passionate about learning and try harder and get better and better grades!
I love when my students enjoy a hard quiz because they say it makes them think.
I love the way they always want to learn more.
I love that they gave me a Haitian name that signifies how much I have to learn about Haiti.  (I'm here to learn.  Bring it on.)

Sure, there are things that I don't like.  I don't like it when my students turn in something really late or don't show up for a quiz.  Then they beg me to give them points for this and that because they're not getting a good grade.  Gah.

Yet those things are completely eclipsed by how fun it is to be a part of their education, a part of their dream to make Haiti a better place.




My name is Asefi, and I am a teacher.

October 13, 2013

pa regrete

No regrets.

I've thought for a while now that I'll probably get a tattoo that says "no regrets" some day.  The phrase means a lot to me.  The very first Christian event I went to - in 8th grade - was themed "No Regrets."  But I didn't start to follow Jesus after that event.  Why?  Maybe because I wasn't ready, maybe because I wasn't desperate for Jesus yet.  But I look back on that weekend, and though it was fun, I really hate the message they were preaching.  Their version of no regrets was:
 "Don't do anything you would regret.  Stay on the straight and narrow path.  Make the right decisions."
And I thought that Jesus wasn't for me; even at age 13 I had a lot of regrets.  I was having a terrible time in school.  My parents were divorced.  I was bullied by a lot of kids at school, and the administration wouldn't do anything about it.  I was a goody-two-shoes who didn't fight back.  I hated school so much that I practiced smiling in the mirror when I was at home because I thought I would never have any friends if I didn't pretend to me happy.  But in actuality, I hated everyone and everything, and I had a lot of things to regret.  
It was too late for me.  I had already made mistakes.  
Life went on, and things got worse.  No need to go into it, but we all have tragedies, right?  Mine might have been worse than yours, but it was definitely less than many people in the world, especially in places like Haiti.  
So, at this point, you might wonder why I would want a "no regrets" tattoo.  Well, when I was 15, Jesus got to me.  (Happy 5 and a half year anniversary, Jezi!)  And for quite a while, I still had regrets.  But Jesus worked on me, in so many ways.  A heart full of hate became a heart full of love, even for those who hurt me.  A girl with the lowest amount of self esteem that a person could possibly have became a girl who completely loves herself in every way.  A smart girl who would've chased the American dream gave it all away to love marginalized children.  If you knew me then, you might not even recognize me now.  As my good friends will tell you, my real smile is nothing like my fake smile.  
And here's the thing - I really do love myself.  I love every dark part of my heart that Jesus has cleaned (and even the parts that still need a bit of work).  I love my body and my voice and my brain, even if I forget half of everything.  I love my future and all the questions in it.  And here's the kicker, I love my past.  I didn't ask for the horrible things that happened.  There's no reason to think - what if?  Anyone's life would have been different for a couple of if's.  If is a waste.  If is a complete waste.  But I don't regret anything that has happened to me.  If I did, I would be regretting who I am.  Who I am isn't regrettable; who I am is a beautiful child of God.  Who I am is proof of a miracle, proof of my God who turns ugly things into beautiful things, dark into light, hate into love, death into hope.  
I will always carry these light scars, the kind you can only see if you scrutinize me very closely.  If you find, I'll smile and tell you all about how God really has used everything in my life for His glory.




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Now, I want you to take a second to reflect on that first part.  I tried to look up what I thought would be "no regrets" in Creole, and instead I came across a new idea in my mind - "Don't Regret."  And where I am now, I think that this message is actually more important for me.  I've healed from the wounds of the past, and I love who I am.  But I still fail at the no regrets thing because I sometimes regret where I am now.  That might be even worse than regretting the things of the past.  I regret things as they're happening.  How did I get in this or that situation?  Could this have been avoided?  Was it my fault?  I should have this; I should have that.  Learn from your mistakes, yes, but we all need to stop with the if's!  Don't wonder if things could have been different, if your life would be better right now if this or that happened instead.  You could never know.  And even if it could have been, your life could have also been something worse.  If it wasn't this, it would be something else.
All that to say, don't regret.  Don't regret your past.  Don't regret your present.  There's no way to really love yourself and love God with all that regret in your heart.  

God will make something beautiful out of this, even out of your current situation.

October 7, 2013

chat mwen (my cat)

Tonight, I am very thankful for my little new friend, Quincy.

Quincy has won the lottery.  If anyone else would have purchased him, he would have been Christmas dinner.  But not I.  Quincy is my new best friend.  He is snuggly, playful, and ADORABLE.

What does it take to be a cat lady?  Is it in the number of cats or how much a person loves cats?  Because I really love cats, and Quincy might end up being the most well-loved cat on this whole island.  (I will definitely never let anyone eat him.  Though, I will be in the states for Christmas...  Uh-oh.)

Would anyone like to mail me some flea medicine for Quincy?  Please and thank you.

Yesterday, Lena and I had the house to ourselves.  We had a beautiful friend-date, complete with grilled cheese sandwiches and a mentally disturbed man lingering in our doorway.

I would like to let you know that I will only be blogging once a week (Saturdays, 4 PM) from now on!  I would like to provide you all with a little more meat and substance in the blog.  For more frequent updates, check out the facebook page!!  Facebook.com/shelbloveseverywhere

And now, enjoy a picture of Quincy and a piece of the musical Lena and I wrote yesterday.



October 4, 2013

death to all spiders

This week, I got two beautiful letters from good friends.  A long letter is nourishment for my soul.

This week, I shelled peanuts to make peanut butter.  The orphanage makes their own because it's cheaper.  Fun times!

This week, Shannon and I killed a giant spider with Clorox and a baseball bat.  I'll admit that killing a spider with a bat is very cathartic.

This week, Shannon and I attempted to learn how to drive a moto... To no avail.  More updates on that soon.

This week I taught a short English class at the orphanage!  I love those kids.

This week I had several legitimate conversations in Kreyol.

I should really write more things down because I basically forget things the moment after they happen.

So while my students were taking a quiz, I took my shoes off to sneak up on a cheater.  It worked, and my class DIED of laughter when they realized what I had done.  My class loves me, and I LOVE my class!

All in all, it was a good week!

And I'm happy to announce that you can now make a monthly donation using the "Donate" button on my blog.  Anything you can do would be very welcome!

Love to you, wherever in the world you may find yourself!

September 30, 2013

super cool runnings

And to continue our series on funny movie answers with my class, "Cool Runnings."

Let me first say that the class found the Jamaican people hilarious, and it was awesome.

What did you learn from the movie?

"The Bob Sled team was a funny team."

"There is thing I can.  There is thing I can't."

"When you believe, you're here to fight."

"They are make many accident."
"Sometimes can be difficult on beginning and become easy often experiment."

"I have to work for getting what I want to be in life."

"I did learn to have in this movie, the perseverance."

"We have to fight, never give up."

"The characters in the film are fictional."

"It's forging that one become blacksmith."

September 27, 2013

pizza = happiness

Some people said it was stupid to bring a cupcake maker to Haiti.  After all, I could have brought more clothes, more craft supplies, or more M&Ms.  I held on to the cupcake maker though, and this post shall prove the naysayers wrong!

Not only did we make delicious cupcakes with peanut butter frosting (and undelicious cupcakes with a failed attempt at nutella frosting), but we have conquered PIZZA in the cupcake maker!

So, Agape (who brings in our mail) does this thing where they bring Thanksgiving dinner to all their missions.  Shannon never used the hot roll mix she got from them last year.  That + pizza sauce + cheese slices = good eating for us

Pics or it didn't happen






September 25, 2013

four weeks

Tomorrow, I will get my mail for the first time!  I'm so excited!  I don't think I've ever met anyone who loves getting a letter as much as I do, but if you think you're a contender, I'd love to geek out about letter-getting with you.  =]

So, if you ever would like to send me a package - don't forget to include a note!  But here are some things you could send, if you ever happened to feel like it.

Stuff for the orphanage:
- Crayons
- Candy
- Bubbles
- Construction Paper
- Disney Movies that have French capabilities (Message me to check if I already have it!)
- Safety Scissors
- Glue/tape
- Any other craft materials you have laying around (literally anything!)

Stuff for me and my family:
- Fun activities for Lena's school (or any sort of materials that could be used as such)
- Lara bars for Shannon
- Toothpaste (You can never have enough, and it's really expensive to get here!)
- Salty snacks (I'm a huge fan of Cheez-its, Goldfish, etc.)
- Mac and Cheese for ALL OF US (Seriously, we love it.)

And of course, anything that you can think of would be very appreciated.  The only thing I love more than letters is surprises!!!



Anyway, that was longer than I meant it to be.

I just wanted to give an update on how everything is going.


  1. Lena and I have been going to the orphanage every week, and I would like to work out our schedule so that we can go like 3 times a week.  
  2. My class is hilarious!  Yes, I have to be firm with them and attempt to assert some sort of teacherly authority, BUT they are generally respectful.  I can already see them a lot.
  3. Lena's school is going great as well!  As of this, the 4th week, she has lost some of her enthusiasm for school.  She would rather play than do school, but she's mostly good after we get started.  
  4. Overall, I'd say that I'm adjusting pretty well.  Some things still scare me - like driving a moto.  No, I haven't done it yet, but I'm a bit scared when I think about it!  
  5. I'm good and healthy, and I haven't really been sick, except for one night.  
  6. I have been in Haiti for four weeks, but it feels like I just got here!  Crazy!  

Lastly, I'd love to do a Q & A about Haiti, my life, orphans, etc sometime soon.  Send in some questions, and you'll get an answer on the blog before too long.  

Love you people!

Shoutout to everyone who helped me get the money for my scooter.  I should be purchasing it in a week or two!  I'm especially grateful for a good friend from college who gave the majority of the funds for it!  I'm so humbled by my peers who love and follow Jesus.  You know who you are, and you're awesome.


September 23, 2013

soul surfer

I'm showing a movie to my class every Friday.  Last week, we watched "Soul Surfer."  One of the questions they had to answer was: "what did you learn from this movie?"  For those of you who haven't seen it, it's about Bethany Hamilton, who lost her arm in a shark attack and went on to be very awesome and successful and "embrace more people than [she] ever could have with two arms."

"We should go love the handicapped."

"I can say she does everything by herself.  She cooks, she goes to the market."

"When someone goes to take a bath in the sea, lots of problems can arrive."

"I can be what I want to be."

"The sea is something very dangerous."

"I was surprised to see Bethany in the ocean his problem."

"Many people shouted at other people swim." (I had a hard time decoding that one!)

"By this movie I learned that everything is possible if you are courageous, diligent, and have faith in God."

So there you have it.  Don't take a bath in the sea.  =]

September 21, 2013

spending time with Jesus

I've been thinking a lot lately about the importance of spending time with God, which has been a recurring theme in my life because I just can't seem to get it right.  Even when I sort of get on a schedule of 15 minutes a day or so, I realize that I need more, that I never seem to get enough!

And I was thinking about heaven, and how it's going to be so awesome to worship Jesus all day long.  Yet I wonder, why do some people work so hard to get there without spending any time with Him while they're on this earth?  That's like working all year to go camping without ever taking a moment to appreciate the beauty of your backyard.  Spending time with Jesus is a taste of heaven, and I just wonder we don't make it more of a priority.  Maybe the truth is that many of us are enticed more by the streets of gold and no-more-tears thing of heaven.  Maybe we just want to get there for selfish reasons.  When all along, the real prize for our labor in the harvest is simply to BE with Him.

Not to mention (wait- I hate that phrase!  You say that you're not mentioning something as the transition into mentioning it.  Somebody explain that!), there is no point in anything you do for God without giving Him ample time to fill you up.  Seriously, you're not giving a single thing that is worth receiving, if you're not giving it out of the love, joy, peace, and hope that God has given to you.

I'm talking to me.  Because the truth is that I need Jesus every day, every hour, every moment, or what I do here is in vain.  I might as well be living it up and focusing on myself in every way.

So I will seek God, every day, because it's worth it for so many reasons.

September 18, 2013

the difference

The difference between me and the people I'm serving - it's staggering.  It's not fair.  It plagues me.  I think about it often.

Because I can choose to live in Haiti, but they can't choose to live in America.
I can choose to fast, but they can't choose to eat 3 square meals.
I can choose to live closer to their level, but they can't choose to live closer to my American life.
I can choose not to have so many things, but they can't choose to have them.

Sometimes, I hope to leave you with a question rather than all the answers.

But just maybe, this is why Jesus says it's so hard for the rich man to make it into heaven.

And I am the rich man.

September 16, 2013

why i love you a whole lot

This one's for you, sitting on your computer, going out of your way to take the time to see how I'm doing.

I sit here, and my prayer is that you know how much you mean to me, that I pray for you every day.  Do you know that I wouldn't be here without you?  Supporters play such an integral role in missions.  Not just supporters who give money, though it is appreciated.  But every single thing you can do, it means the world to me.  Can you imagine how much it means to me, here in Haiti, to remember that so many people back in the states helped me get to be where I am, that they pray for me, that they take time to read my blog?  Maybe you can't.  Maybe you have to be on the receiving end to understand how humbling and how beautiful it is.  I know that I never thought that my support played a huge role in the life of any missionaries.  Maybe if I were more eloquent, I could really explain it to you.  All I know to say is that you, each and every one of you, are precious to me.

Here are some things that have been done, or could be done in the future, that are a HUGE blessing and encouragement to me!

1. Comment on my blog.  I love blogging, but it's hard to be consistent when I feel like no one reads all of my silly ideas and rambling!

2. Pray for me.  And let me know how I can pray for you.  I want to stay updated on your lives!

3. Send me a letter!  
Shelby Bollar

c/o Agape Flights CAY 27525

100 Airport Avenue

Venice, FL 34285

http://www.agapeflights.com/send-a-packageletter.html

4. Talk to me about ministry.  I'd love to hear your heart for ministry and help you get plugged in somewhere or sort through any questions you might be struggling with.  

5. Help me get a scooter!  Okay, it sounds like a small thing, but it would mean so much to me!  Today is day 1 of my scooter campaign, and I already have over 10% of my goal thanks to an anonymous donor!  If I get this scooter, I will be able to visit the orphanage more often, and we all know that's where my heart truly is.  It will also just open up more possibilities and opportunities in general!  So please do what you can, even if you think it's small.  http://www.gofundme.com/4b868c

6. Spend some time today alone and ask yourself what you are doing to make believers in all nations.  Are you happy with what you're doing?  Would you like to do more?  I'd love to talk about any of this with you.  I'm ALWAYS ready and willing to talk about things that matter.  Just shoot me a quick message.  

Thanks for reading, and Happy Monday!

Love you all so much more than you know!

September 13, 2013

the last couple weeks in pictures

When I got here a couple weeks ago, we spent the night at Servotel in PAP.  Good days of swimming and french fries.  The next day we took the bus to Les Cayes (pronounced O Kai), where Shannon and I BOTH saw our house for the first time!  
 And this is the room that I share with Lena and a three year old Haitian named "Papou."  In this picture, you can see a lot of things that are precious to me including: a card from Lovingtsky, a Disney calendar, a prayer white board, pictures of my friends at Asbury (including a very dear friend, soon to be married!), one of the best gifts I've ever gotten - Chuck, and a wooden decoration from Honduras.  What I love about not having too much stuff is that everything I have is either extremely useful or deeply cherished.



 Lena and I painted a fan!
 It didn't turn out quite as exciting as I had hoped.  The pictures is cooler than real life.
 We also did some face painting as part of a Girl Scout Try-It.  Since when are they called try-its?  I miss badges!

 Perhaps my favorite part is the green and blue eyebrows.  New fashion trend?  I hope so.
 We also went to Saut Matherine.  Go to Shannon's blog and check out her pictures.  They're much better than mine!!

 Chacos.  Fit for adventure.
 This is me, ready for my first day of teaching University!
 And this is me, more accurately portraying the nervousness of teaching there!  I mean, only 1% of Haitians make it to University, and I don't feel worthy to teach them!
 On Thursday, there were no desks in my classroom!! I awkwardly asked my students to get get desks, and it worked.  Yet, I must wonder if the exact same thing from another teacher is what got my desks lost in the first place.  Ha!
 This is Papou, when he got new underwear from the states!  You can't really tell in this picture, but he's wearing about 6 pairs of underwear at once!

Coming soon: pictures of Lena's freshly-painted classroom and pictures from the orphanage where we volunteer.

Woohoo!!!!

P.S.  Please send me letters and packages!  Letters are the song of my heart.  All you have to do is mail it to Florida, and it will get to me!  And with packages, you need to make a small donation to the flight ministry, which is called Agape!  They are the BEST people ever, and they are giving us a free Thanksgiving meal in November.  Crazy!  Here's my address!

Shelby Bollar
c/o Agape Flights CAY 27525
100 Airport Avenue
Venice, FL 34285
http://www.agapeflights.com/send-a-packageletter.html

September 11, 2013

preparations!

Yikes, this is delayed!  I so kept meaning to write about this when I was about to leave the states.  

My goodbyes were oh so beautiful.

From the Hogans to Crossroads Church to my Asbury friends, everyone was praying for me and offering up praise about my calling and my life.  It was so amazing and so humbling.  Standing there, hearing what I've meant to people and the difference I've made in their lives, only to know that absolutely 100% of it is because of Jesus.  
Every single thing that people love about me is Jesus in me.
To see so clearly how He is shining in my life, it was really reassuring.  It was just the perfect experience to prefix my life in Haiti with.

Here's a theme that's been in my heart lately.  Our bathroom has no light, so I bring a flashlight in with me at night.  If I'm trying to get a good look at my face, I have to shine my flashlight on the real thing.  If I shine it on the mirror, I will barely be able to see myself.  And in the same way, I'm a reflection of Jesus.  But focusing more on myself will not brighten that image.  Only focusing on Him can do that.  (Okay, so I know that's totally random, and I hope at least one person out there can follow my train of thought on this one.)  

Or in a more poetic way, one of my favorite songs by Vicky Beeching is "Captivated," which is about standing in awe of Jesus.  

"Beholding is becoming, so as You fill my gaze.  I become more like You, and my heart is changed.  Beholding is becoming, so as You fill my view.  Transform me into the likeness of You."

September 9, 2013

beauty

About 6 years ago, I wrote an essay about how anything is beautiful if you love it.  Which I still think is true.  Yet, I lament that we, as people, tend to love so little, when our capacity to love is so large.

I sat in front of a waterfall, perhaps the most beautiful thing I have ever EVER seen.  As I was captivated by that beauty, I couldn't help but think of the beauty that is around as all the time.  When something becomes commonplace, we tend to stop admiring it.  We sat in front of the waterfall for hours.  But what if we lived next door to the waterfall?  How long would it be before we hardly gave it a second glance?  Probably not long at all.

So I guess the moral of the story is to appreciate the beauty around you and love the place you're in.  The things you see every day might be someone else's beautiful waterfall, and you don't want to miss it.


September 6, 2013

7 things i'm glad i packed

1. Chuck, my bear in a tux.  Not only do the kids love him, but he is a present reminder of friends back home who love me and are praying for me.

2. My Cupcake Maker!  We've used it already, and it's super handy when one doesn't have an oven!

3. My Craft Stuff.  Gotta love expressing my non-artsy self through art!

4. My copy of "Oh The Places You'll Go."  Lena loves it, and I've found that every day can be summed up in a page from that book.

5. Two lightweight rugs.  They stir things up in this all tile or concrete or dirt environment.

6. Earplugs.  Besides the general Haiti noise of goats, thunderstorms, and motos; I share my room with a 3 year old.  Enough said.

7. Myself.  It's good to be here, finally! =]

September 4, 2013

well hello there!

Hey folks!
I apologize for the lack of updates. Hopefully, you're following my facebook page, and you already know that I have indeed arrived safely! (www.facebook.com/shelbyloveseverywhere)

So far the transition has been harder than I thought it would be. On the plane here, I felt it for the first time - the weight of the things I'm giving up, like a heavy burden on my shoulders. The entirety of what my life could be right now, but isn't. It's compounded my countless posts about my peers in happy apartments, going to school, being with friends. I'm bright. I could be in seminary or grad school or have a high-paying job. Some people my age are married now. The people that I've invested in during my life are all left behind. Doing the things I could have chosen, occupying the space I filled in their lives (though maybe not the space in their hearts).

 I can't say with 100% honesty that there's no pain involved with this. Some people I know wouldn't risk the pain at all. When you think about it, does it make that much sense? Giving up everything I have known, everyone I have loved, to pursue a dream, to pursue God, in a country where I can't exactly speak the language, where I don't have any friends? I can see how such a concept might be out of the ordinary. In the last week (would you believe I've been here a week already?), the weight has lifted slowly but surely. I remind myself that everyone I have ever loved was once a stranger. Every place I've ever lived was new in the beginning. There's something so comforting, so joyful, about needing less to make me happy. I still have a lot more than some people - about 175 lbs of stuff, much of which is craft stuff and food. Maybe someday I can whittle it down to a bit less. I kind of hope so. There's something liberating about it. I don't need electricity all the time to keep me happy, though it sure is nice. When I moved into Asbury, the whole car was full. Now it's just a trunk. What did I even take?

Life is full of choices, and perhaps one of the most important ones is how much you're willing to risk. I'm not talking danger; I doubt I'm in much more danger here than I have been the rest of my life. What would you risk? Would you risk having friends? Would you risk having convenience? Would you risk looking like a fool?

[I'd love to continue this conversation in the comments, if anyone wants to put their two cents in! Also welcome: what you want to see on the blog.]

August 25, 2013

road tripping

In honor of 20+ hours spent in the last few days, I'd like to share some tips on the blog.

Night time driving is the best, if you can handle it.  I present:

10 Tips for Staying Awake All Night on a Road Trip

10.  Caffeine.  Sunkist has more caffeine than Coke, and take adventure of Starbucks if you can find one that's open.

9. Eat.  But not too much sugar.  You're already getting plenty of sugar from the sodas or coffees that you're drinking.

8. Loud Music.  Especially when you know all the words and sing along.

7. Watch a Movie. Especially a musical.  We chose the Phantom of the Opera.

6. Make goals for yourself.  Like, no bathroom break for another hour.  It'll keep your eyes on the clock but it helps with focus.

5. Scream out the window.  It's quite invigorating.

4. Be ridiculous.  Serious is boring and being boring makes you tired.  That is a scientific fact.

3. Comfortable clothes.

2. Let go of your pride.  If you're getting sleepy, let the other person drive or pull over.

1. Bring your best friend.


Enjoy this video of Honduras!

August 14, 2013

proverbs 31 woman

I used to hate the woman from Proverbs 31, mostly because she gets up so early in the morning. To me, the passage always seemed like an unrealistic to-do list that all women should strive to achieve. I even resented it, to an extent, and I didn't understand why people would strive to be like her. 




And it was so silly, because I don't think that's what the passage is about at all. I was reading it in The Message, and I suddenly saw it from a different perspective. It's not about the shame and failure of a woman who fails to meet these standards, but it's a simple celebration of a woman of God. And it's been on my heart a lot recently, but I don't want to overanalyze it and give you a bunch of words from my own thoughts. But I'd really encourage you to spend some time reading this passage today, especially if you're a woman. So I'm going to pick out some of my favorites or you can read it with Bible Gateway.





"Her husband trusts her without reserve,
and never has reason to regret it.
Never spiteful, she treats him generously
all her life long."

"She’s quick to assist anyone in need,
reaches out to help the poor."

'

"First thing in the morning, she dresses for work,
rolls up her sleeves, eager to get started.
She senses the worth of her work,
is in no hurry to call it quits for the day."

"When she speaks she has something worthwhile to say,
and she always says it kindly."

Go, and laugh without fear of the future.


August 12, 2013

detours

Sometimes the best places are the places you find yourself by accident.

I've been neglecting to write this post because I know I can't find all the right words to say what I mean.  But here it goes.

Not leaving for Haiti in May is one of the hardest things I've been through in quite some time.  I struggled with the fact that I had felt so sure that God was calling me to that situation in particular; so why didn't it work out?  With that in the back of my mind, I still had some really great experiences this summer.

I went to Honduras, which was lovely.  Being a first grade teacher pushed me way out of my comfort zone, which is a place I love to be!  But not that many things scare me, so I don't get to be out of my comfort zone that often.  I learned a lot, grew, and met a lot of wonderful people.  If I had gone to Haiti, I might never have been able to go to Honduras.

I lived in Maryland and got to know a lot of great people.  I got to live with the Hogans and get to know their whole family better.  I don't know about you, but there aren't a lot of things better than a night in, watching a funny movie with your best friend and eating stove-popped popcorn.

Meanwhile, nothing was working out in the search for other organizations to work with.  It was excruciating.  One organization said that there was a need for someone like me, took two months to review my application and contact my references, and then said they actually didn't need anyone.  One organization somehow lost my ONLINE application as well as several e-mails that I sent them.  A few other organizations somehow NEVER responded to attempts to get in contact with them.  The one organization that did look good just felt wrong.  It was so hard to say no, not knowing if any other opportunities would present themselves.  But I just had this gut feeling that organization wasn't the answer.

And I went to Chyrsalis.  Which was basically a young adult retreat filled with God and and empty of distractions.  No phones.  No jobs.  You don't even get to pour yourself a soda.  You hardly lift a finger the whole weekend.  If you ever get the chance to take a Chrysalis/Emmaus weekend, DO IT.  Trust me; you won't regret it.
That's where I was honest with myself and admitted that I hadn't really been trusting God since everything happened with Haiti.  Everyone kept telling me that God had something better in mind, but how could it be true?  How could anything be better than what I was going to have?
And I let it go.  I nailed it to the cross - both literally and metaphorically.  Yes, trusting God is a choice we have to make all the time, every day, but sometimes we really, really have to make it.  Make the decision to trust God even more than we've ever trusted Him before.  And I did.  And I honestly said the next morning to one of the leaders of the retreat - that I wasn't afraid or worried at all, even though I had no idea about the future and had no prospects.  And I'm really glad because it's an issue that would've gone on the wayside if I had figured out where I was going before Chrysalis.

And now in true detour fashion, I am going where I was going to go in the beginning.  A different city - Port Salut, but the same lovely people - Shannon and Lena.  Though the road to where I am now is not the road that I meant to take, it has been perfect.  There's still more to come.  I'm going to D.C. and New York in the next couple weeks!  Then off to see my friends in KY and my mom in FL before I leave for Haiti in 16 days!  Crazy!

Well, I hope that explains it, but you can always e-mail me if you'd like more information about any of my recent experiences.

August 9, 2013

inspiration

I'm off to Haiti in about 19 days, woo!  I'm going to have a longer blog in a couple of days to explain more about that, but there's something else I want to talk about right now.

I'm fundraising again, and support is starting to come in.

I just want you all to know what a blessing it is to receive support - whether it's a note of encouragement, a prayer, or a donation.  It says that you believe that God is at work in my ministry; so much so that you want to be a part of it.  And I think that is just beautiful.

It means the world to me, and it means even more when it's someone my own age.  One of my closest friends from Asbury (who surely would not enjoy being mentioned by name on here) has given over $450 in support and is giving monthly as well.  I'm so thankful for her, and I've been so blessed by her constant encouragement (including a book in French to read to the kids in Haiti!).  But even more than that, it renews my hope in this generation.

Because my generation, every generation, has the opportunity to form the world into a more beautiful image, one that looks more like God.  And it doesn't really happen through huge campaigns or giant organizations.  It happens in every decision every day.
The choice to help someone, or help yourself.
To do something about a problem or let it go.
To fight for justice or to find a way to make yourself happy.
To use your time, energy, and money for something that might change the world for the better, or to use it for something that might change the world for the worse.

My prayer is that this generation will make the choices to make this world a more beautiful, just, and cooperative place.  But even if it doesn't, lives are being changed by the big and small sacrifices that are made every day by those who believe that doing so just might shine the love of God on the face of another.

Thanks again, to everyone!  And I hope that if you believe that God is at work in Port Salut, Haiti, that you will support this ministry in whatever way you can.

Have a beautiful day.


June 20, 2013

back to my heart

Let's begin with a video of Honduras that Jessica made.  =]

http://www.youtube.com/0RuxLNeR0Jw
(Note: If this link doesn't work at first, try again in a few hours!)

You know, the past couple months have been kind of hard.  There were parts that were fantastic and beautiful: spending time with my best friends, graduating, seeing my family in South Carolina, and going to Honduras for 5 weeks.  But all the while, it's been nagging me.  That feeling that my life is falling apart.  That "what am I doing?" feeling.  I knew exactly where I was going; I had every last detail figured out.  And even faster than it came, it flew to pieces.  It doesn't help that others have asked me a thousand times in the past few months: "what's next?"  It's not their fault.  They don't know how much baggage I'm carrying with that question right now.  In all of it, I've been so bogged down.  It's caused me to rethink all of my plans - Haiti or not Haiti?  Children or something else?  Who?  Where?  What?  In the midst of all these questions, none of the answers sounded exciting anymore.  All of this is hard to admit.  I'm not entirely past it at this point, but I finally see some sun, some answers that do get me excited.

I was looking back on some old facebook notes, from years ago.  (Totally a God thing.  I haven't looked at these for years, and I just suddenly felt like I needed to see them again right away.)  Back when I was just a baby Christian.  I've got to give myself some credit here.  Although I may have been wrong about many things, I was headed in the right direction, the direction that has gotten me this far anyway.  
For starters, I saw a note that I wrote about what I should choose as a career.  A test that I had taken (my Sophomore year of High School) listed the following among my top few choices: Child and Youth Worker, Motivational Speaker, Clergy, Religious Worker, Humanitarian Aid Worker, Community Worker, Special Ed Teacher, etc.  I find it pretty hilarious how accurate this is.  And one of my best friends commented on it at the time that I should be a missionary - 5 YEARS ago.  And though those quizzes that tell you what you should be when you grow up might be a little silly, it was a really good reminder for me.  This is where I've been headed for a long time - the main pursuit of my life for quite some time now.  It's not falling apart because of a minuscule setback.  Not long after that, I posted another note.  It was about what I want to do with my life.  The conclusion that I came to then was that I wanted to love God and love people.  I mean, we really complicate things sometimes, don't we?

This is the heart of who I am.  I love God, and I love people.  Where I am and what I'm doing are just chapters, and I know these things will change as I go.  

So I'm in the process of looking for an organization to work with, and who knows where it will be?  I go back and forth.  On one hand, my heart is in Haiti (and I know I will be back there, even if it's not soon).  On the other hand, there's so much world out there, and I want to experience it.  

Meanwhile, I'm staying at the Hogan's House in Maryland.  I'm very blessed and very glad to be with them.  =]

Even when we can't remember it, mysteries are exciting adventures.

Here's the song that's been in my heart lately.

http://www.youtube.com/embed/33ixWHymZos


My two favorite parts of the song:

"Thirteen - I've got brand new eyes.  Fourteen - Everything's a surprise.  Fifteen - not a day that I regret.  Love is endless."

"Count out loud all of the ways that life is good on different days.  Things can change, but love always stays the same.  Count out loud, it never ends.  The list goes on and on again.  Forgive, forget, and your let your life begin. Love is endless."

June 8, 2013

la Miss de primero grado

Gee, I have not had any time to blog since I became a teacher.  Maybe I'm not cut out for blogging... I like to think that the occasional blog is better than not having a blog at all (but correct me if I'm wrong).

a picture from my first day

For the past three weeks, I have been a first grade teacher.
Me, without any experience teaching.
Me, without nearly as much Spanish as I'd like to know.
Me, in the midst of a time in my life when the future is a mystery.
But I said yes.  I said yes to the adventure of it all.  It's a decision that I've questioned a lot in the past three weeks, but at the end of the day, I always remember why I said yes.  Because life is unpredictable, and if you try to make it predictable, you're only depriving yourself of all the wonder that is out there.  Teaching first grade is probably the farthest out of my comfort zone that I've ever been.  Between not knowing where I was supposed to go, not getting to school on time, getting picked up an hour late, not being able to communicate with the other teachers much, not knowing how to discipline the kids, not knowing what I'm supposed to be doing, and all the rest; it's been a crazy three weeks.  As difficult as it's been, I wouldn't change my mind for anything.

The first couple days were some of the worst.  The kids hadn't had a teacher for a while, and they asked me every five minutes if they could go outside.  On days like that, I felt like all I ever did was yell at them to work, sit down, be quiet, work, sit down, stop, work, please!  Almost every day, I wrote a letter to the mother of the most difficult student in my class.  She wanted me to spend more time with her kid, even though I was already spending half of my time with him.  Things like that made me think back to all the teachers I've had in my life and see what kinds of things teachers go through, like being blamed for the student not trying/working.  But in all this, to see the progress was amazing.  Between my first day and my last day, their behavior was so much better, and they learned so much in their classes.  Math problems that were hard for them are easy now.  They raise their hands and get a lot more work done than they did at first.

Now for some of my favorite moments:

One morning there was a frog in our classroom.  The students were so excited, but they had to go to the devotional in the cafeteria.  So, I worked hard to get the frog outside in that time, and when they came back (at like 8 am), they asked about it.  I told them he wasn't there anymore, and they were so disappointed.  About 5 hours later, one of my students came to me and said, "and the frog, Miss?"

I told a student that I was originally from San Diego.  She told me, "That's where Drake and Josh are from!!"

A student told me she was from the states - Nueva York.  I'm not sure why, but it just cracked me up.  Too cute.  From the states, but she still calls it Nueva instead of New.

I always read my Bible during my breaks, and it was a good conversation starter.  I had a conversation with a girl who told me that she was trying to be a Christian but she couldn't because she likes secular music.  (Honduran Christian culture is very conservative, and Christians here basically don't listen to any secular music ever.)  But I got to talk to her about how it may be a cultural issue, but that she can still be a Christian and like that music.  And she was a friend from then on.

When we watched the Lion King, my kids clapped when Simba beat Scar.  After the movie was over, they ran around saying, "Simba gano!"  (Simba won!)  It was hilariously fun.

When I come in to school, I say good morning to the kids.  Then they stand and say, "Good morning, Miss Bollar.  Good bless you," all in unison.  Adorable.  Between that and getting lots of hugs, it's not a bad way to start the day.

Jessica came a few times to help, and it was very helpful indeed.  I asked her to take a picture of me and the class.  She told them she was going to take a picture of them and they all groaned and whined.  And I said, "conmigo!" Then they all smiled and cheered.

Yesterday, the students drew pictures on the board for me.  One student drew me as an angel.  Isn't that adorable?  All the pictures they do have God, Jesus, and the Holy Spirit.  Usually the Bible too.

We have a lot of activities in the language book for writing sentences.  Here are some of my favorites:
Orange is orange.
I watch the worms.
Summer is June.
George Washington is beautiful.

It's also funny how they sometimes help each other with their work and then end up with the same hilariously wrong answers.  For example, 24-3= 0!   Yeah, definitely 0.

And when I told them that Monday is my last day, they were all indignant.  One student fell on his face.  Another turned around and just yelled, "why are you leaving?"  They looked so sad; I teared up too.  It stinks that I'm leaving when they still have four days of school left, but it feels like the right time.


And now, some pictures for your enjoyment!


















And this has been my life for three weeks.  Monday, I say goodbye.

May 20, 2013

partying

We spend our evenings trying to get to know the students better.  It's a very small amount of time because they have study hall until 7:15, and then their curfew is 8:30 (9 on Saturdays). 
We're not allowed to have cards in Honduras because it's considered gambling.  The Christian culture of Honduras is very conservative, compared to the states.  We are allowed to have Uno though, and we have spent many hours of our time here playing Uno with the boys.  It's a good way to connect, but we have gotten just a little bit sick of Uno. 
So Friday, we went on a quest for a basketball!  The students would much rather play soccer, but we would definitely not be able to hold our own against them on the soccer field.  We found a student with a basketball, and we started to play.  Before we knew it, half the school was watching the game.  I was a little worried that I would bring my team down, since I haven't played basketball since I was like 11.  In the first game, I got two points(out of three), including the winning point!  I'm a lot more proud of that than I should be, but it was super fun and a lot of exercise. 

Okay, so this is a little different.  It looks like I might be a teacher, like a real first grade teacher in the school in Catacamas that two of Leslie's children go to.  I definitely don't feel equipped, but I'm completely willing to do whatever.  We'll see how it goes. 

Pray for me as I try to figure out what I'm going to do next.

Love,
Shelbs

May 15, 2013

beautiful little things

I'm in that beautiful, strange place - the one where you don't know much of anything about the future.  There are so many possibilities, but, at the same time, it can be hard not knowing.  
Honduras is great, but I'm not here for long.  I'm not sure how much these five weeks will change the world, but I know that for me it's a time of enjoying the little things.

Students laughing at me trying to speak Spanish.
Miscommunications that result in hilarious jokes.
Riding in the back of a truck.
Seeing the stars.
Seeing the mountains.
Eating ice cream.
Trying new things (even food!).
Meeting wonderful people who love Jesus.
Catching a glimpse of someone else's heart.
Watching cartoons in Spanish.
Kids who are goofy and make the same jokes over and over.  (There's a banana on your head!)
Sunburn jokes from people who know nothing of being sunburnt.
8th grade boys who will never think that we're cool.


Those are just a few.  Now, here are a few pictures for your enjoyment.

Photo
we often take siestas throughout the day



from our travel day.  don't we look fabulous?


Thanks for reading my blog!  Next, go read my best friend's blog!  She wrote a good one this week.  =]